happy valentines day

Valentines day:
It's that one day of the year where most single people feel inadequate, sad and lonely and where big companies like hallmark rub their greedy hands together and say thanks to all the folk who think they have to celebrate their relationships on this certain day by buying the best card and the biggest flowers etc. It is commercialism gone crazy and lots of people buy into this fake idea.

Now 4 years ago before I met the love of my life, my true best friend and soul mate I would of been feeling pretty rubbish because I didn't get a card and the radio, TV, shops etc are full of love. I longed for love, I longed to be loved just the way I am, I thought that I'm a pretty decent girl, I'm kind and intelligent, why can't I find a good love?, valentines day just makes these feelings so much worse.

So to all you single people, it's only a day just like other days, you are loved by families and friends, one day you will find the one to make your heart sing, the one who shares your secrets, the one who still smiles at you when you wear spotty pyjama pants under your skirt because it's cold, the one who makes you smile without even knowing it, the one who you would do anything for willingly to make them happy, the one who wraps their arms around you and the rest of the world fades away because nothing else matters and you feel safe.

For all you couples who are in crappy relationships you deserve so much more, you are worth so much more, you will be loved, you will survive if you go your separate ways, life will be better. I had 8 years of abuse and domestic violence from my first ever relationship, we shared 3 lovely children, we had a home, everything we owned we owned it together, it was hard and frightening to leave, to face the unknown, to be a single mum to 3 children aged 5 and under. I did it, yes it was difficult, yes I struggled but do you know that I am a better person and a better mum because of it. It saddens me to think of all of you couples wasting your lives, making each other miserable when there is so much more waiting for you, you can find another person who will treat you the right way.

To all the couples who are so happy with their partners, thank each day for being lucky to have the fates let you find your special partner. I do, my lovely man and I feel truly blessed every day to be together, not just on one day of the year.

It's also not about how expensive gifts are or how big they are, if you love someone tokens of affection should come whenever you feel like showing someone how much you care. A love note costs nothing but means a lot. Warming your other halves clothes up before they get ready for bed, giving each other a massage to ease the days stresses away. Making cakes or just walks holding hands, these little things are the things that people do when in love, so sorry Hallmark, Clinton cards and any other fat cats out there, you can stick your helium filled love balloon and cuddly toys where the sun don't shine and I will celebrate my love everyday of the year.