Friday, 25 February 2011
Tuesday, 22 February 2011
Monday, 14 February 2011
It's that one day of the year where most single people feel inadequate, sad and lonely and where big companies like hallmark rub their greedy hands together and say thanks to all the folk who think they have to celebrate their relationships on this certain day by buying the best card and the biggest flowers etc. It is commercialism gone crazy and lots of people buy into this fake idea.
Now 4 years ago before I met the love of my life, my true best friend and soul mate I would of been feeling pretty rubbish because I didn't get a card and the radio, TV, shops etc are full of love. I longed for love, I longed to be loved just the way I am, I thought that I'm a pretty decent girl, I'm kind and intelligent, why can't I find a good love?, valentines day just makes these feelings so much worse.
So to all you single people, it's only a day just like other days, you are loved by families and friends, one day you will find the one to make your heart sing, the one who shares your secrets, the one who still smiles at you when you wear spotty pyjama pants under your skirt because it's cold, the one who makes you smile without even knowing it, the one who you would do anything for willingly to make them happy, the one who wraps their arms around you and the rest of the world fades away because nothing else matters and you feel safe.
For all you couples who are in crappy relationships you deserve so much more, you are worth so much more, you will be loved, you will survive if you go your separate ways, life will be better. I had 8 years of abuse and domestic violence from my first ever relationship, we shared 3 lovely children, we had a home, everything we owned we owned it together, it was hard and frightening to leave, to face the unknown, to be a single mum to 3 children aged 5 and under. I did it, yes it was difficult, yes I struggled but do you know that I am a better person and a better mum because of it. It saddens me to think of all of you couples wasting your lives, making each other miserable when there is so much more waiting for you, you can find another person who will treat you the right way.
To all the couples who are so happy with their partners, thank each day for being lucky to have the fates let you find your special partner. I do, my lovely man and I feel truly blessed every day to be together, not just on one day of the year.
It's also not about how expensive gifts are or how big they are, if you love someone tokens of affection should come whenever you feel like showing someone how much you care. A love note costs nothing but means a lot. Warming your other halves clothes up before they get ready for bed, giving each other a massage to ease the days stresses away. Making cakes or just walks holding hands, these little things are the things that people do when in love, so sorry Hallmark, Clinton cards and any other fat cats out there, you can stick your helium filled love balloon and cuddly toys where the sun don't shine and I will celebrate my love everyday of the year.
Tuesday, 1 February 2011
I followed the instructions and rubbed the bicarb into my scalp, it felt sandy and gritty, I didn't really like the feeling to be honest, it seemed easier when I added a little water to make it more runny, my hair was very tangled and felt like a damp dog, but when I added the vinegar rinse it untangled by itself, the smell of the vinegar was really off putting to me because as a child I had long hair, to the back of my knees and my mum used to rinse my hair in vinegar (lots of it), so I was thinking of that. Oh and probably because I only had malt vinegar in the cupboard! When dry my hair felt cleaner and pretty OK, this only lasted a day though and I'm not a girl to be washing my hair every day as it takes nearly 6 hours to dry.
Next up on my no shampoo idea was bicarb, vinegar followed with conditioner (still had this left) - bad idea, my hair was awful, real clumpy and waxy.
Completely by accident after finding out my soap running out and I didn't have the £3 for a new bar ( I told you chem free stuff is expensive!) I bought a bar of 99p olive oil soap
This one from our local health food shop, it is available at Holland and Barratt and other local health food shops too I'm guessing, well back to the no shampoo thing.... I needed to clean my hair so squeezing half a lemon into an old shampoo bottle and adding some water to it, I jumped in the shower, rubbed this soap all over my hair and rinsed with the lemon mix, ohh it was too lovely, my head felt so clean, my hair was totally smooth. After towel drying it and scrunching it into a hairband to dry off on it's own, I was amazed when I took my hair down, it was all curly and shiny and gorgeous. My youngest put his face in my hair and said it smelled good enough to eat!
I saw my friend who I had not seen since Christmas and she commented on how healthy my hair looked, you can imagine her surprise when I told her what I have been using. We have all been converted no to no shampoo, I only wished I had done it sooner.
Also I have a girl crush on a lovely gardener who I discovered quite by chance -Alys Fowler (who I think should change her surname to flower). I know I am sooo behind everyone else in all that I do but I missed her series last year so my lovely BF got it for me off the comp and put the entire series onto disc so I spent two nights in complete grow your own heaven. She is totally different from most grow your owner's in that she doesn't use formal lines, it is a mish mash of a bit of all sorts - I like that. If ,Like me, you are less than formal in anything you do and you haven't discovered her, I urge you to, it will make your day and her clothes are super cute too, I want to be her friend and have cups of nettle tea in her garden whilst discussing how beautiful the nasturtiums look, so Alys Fowler if you happen to read this, please be my new friend ;)